Maybe it should just be over?

I suppose bottom line it comes down to this: do you want to continue down this path because I highly doubt anything you mentioned about him will change anytime soon. He sounds like a good guy that hasn't grown up yet, you can wait around for this to slowly happen or cut and run. You have to decide what is best for you in the long run.

-CK

Ok I know you love this guy, but come on. Your not good enough for him? He is how much older than you? And where is he living? And it's not really the fact of where he is living, but that he can do better and doesn't feel the need. Please whatever you do don't get pregnant! take it from a teenage mom that never helps a relationship that already has problems. No one can tell you what to do, but it sounds to me like you are more mature than him. You let people treat you the way you let them. You are worth so much and you are so young and have so mcuh of your life to live. And there is alot more out there than a man and babies. Do'nt sell yourself short!

Help! I am going through a divorce after 25 years of marriage with one man who decided to move out of our house last April 2011 and move in with his new girlfriend he met online. This relationship had its better moments but for the most part, it was unhealthy.

In the meantime I meet up with an family friend that I have know their family for 30 years, and he had broke up with his wife because of her infidelity with his own brother. He had been broken up with her for 1.5 year before I met up with him. However, since our encounter of falling in love so quickly without even creating a friendship to get to know each other and screen each other out, we both feel into each other’s arms. I feel we both have very strong feelings for each other, I feel that I fell in love too fast and left my heart get caught up in this relationship. In the meantime, he is not a US citizen he's in Mexico (I live in San Diego), 10 mins away from my apartment. I have know this respectable family for over 30+ years and the WHOLE FAMILY LOVES ME and RESPECTS ME. They think very highly of me, since I first met them when I was a teenager because my Comadre is married to my boyfriends brother.

Cons of my relationship:
Not a US Citizen, not yet divorced (his ex-wife is in the US), he lost his job last year in August - currently unemployed (very difficult to find a job in Tijuana, Mexico without a HS Diploma), he is very handy and can fix anything, he has a good heart. But I feel like I deserve more out of this relationship. I am very fragile, and he is very jealous, but yet I have caught him in small lies. He currently lives with his Mom and Dad while he is unemployed, he is saving his money from what he had earned to come over to the U.S. to fix his papers (he has already filed with the Immigration). He COULD NOT get away with bringing another girl home to sleep with because his Mom and Dad are very old school and they adore me. Mind you, if we were to break up, I DO KNOW they would ALWAYS pick their son over me, that is only natural - however, if and when that happens I would just stay away from the family for a good long while, because it would hurt me too much to see him with another woman. I do know he loves me, but somehow I just don't feel like I am appreciated and adored by him like I should be. I think he should be trying HARDER to find a job, and I don't like the white lies, deep down inside I do not trust him. The worse thing that I can admit to myself is …”I’m Afraid to Be Alone.” What do I do???

In my opinion.

You need to think about yourself and what is right for you. I understand you don't want to be alone...who does!? Find who you are and what you want out of life. You seem like you are a bit confused and unsure but you know that you want a real relationship...I have never been involved with any immagration situations but maybe until he can get his own life straightened out you need to just hold off on being together as partners and just continue being friends, sounds like some stress that you dont need. You are a female...we have very strong emotions, sometimes guys dont understand that nor care but you need to worry about yourself before you can worry about anyone else. If you don't feel like you are appreciated or adored like you should be try talking to him about it. Talking never killed anyone and it helps people learn and its a good skill to use. I know what you mean about seeing him with another woman...its tough but it is a part of life and if you deserve better than you shouldnt have to worry about seeing him with someone else. I know its going to be hard. But you have your "friends" on here to help you, im on the computer a couple times a day, feel free to shoot me a line if you need to chat and I will reply asap. Keep your head up. And remember... YOU COME FIRST! <3 huggs