a blonde hair??

By sami.jay.1992 on Sun, 02-26-12, 01:48

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honestly, i don't know if its my paranoia or what, but i'm a little uneasy right now. earlier tonight, i found a long blonde hair on my bed. no one in my house has long or blonde hair. one of the women my boyfriend had worked with is blonde, but she had quit about 4 days ago. and two of the women he had his "affairs" with were both blondes. i asked him about it, and he said it was a string. i checked and you could clearly see the follicle. i told him it was a hair and he denied it. am i being too paranoid or do i have a reason to be suspicious??

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By ethes on Sun, 02-26-12, 04:45

The hair could of been picked up in the coat room, even just walking down the street. But it doesn't matter. He did this to your relationship and if he is aware of the impact it has had on you and is truly sorry, then he will know and understand that even several years after an affair, occasional paranoia is gonna happen. It's his responsibility to give you all the reassurance you need and deserve. Maybe you need more resolution from the previous affairs. That also is his responsibility. His denial will only cause more probs. Mayb explain this to him and if he tries to sweep it all under the rug, explain that that hurts too and that you need some counceling and if he sais no, well then go by yourself. hope this helps. God bless.

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By Baroness Broccoli on Sun, 02-26-12, 11:12

I agree with Ethes it's your man's responsibility to make you feel secure in your relationship and reassure you that there's nothing to worry about. Some men deliberately make women feel jealous or on edge and it's really frustrating but in your case this doesn't seem to be the case. I think it's natural for all women to feel a level of paranoia when it comes to infidelity. If he says it's nothing then choose to believe him and shove it out of your way if only to save your relationships cuz excessive accusation and doubt can ruin what you have. I hope it's nothing.

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By sami.jay.1992 on Sun, 02-26-12, 13:33

thank you both. i have a major trust issue, and we were together for almost a year when i found out about his 4 month "affair", even though he had been denying it for a long time, saying i was just paranoid. it was only a few weeks after, i found out about the other woman. i only knew what he told me, but since he lied about the first one, i was upset. this all happened january and early february of this year. after our major fight, i promised to never bring it up again because it would only cause fights and i wanted to work it out. it hasn't been that long ago. i've been keeping all my suspicions to myself (the random working hours, him talking about this one girl, etc) but this just set me over the edge. i didn't start a fight. i just asked and that was it. now, i'm telling supportgroups so i can get another opinion.....

I've been travellin' on this road too long...Just tryna find my way back home...The old me is dead and gone, dead and gone....

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By sweetie1986 on Sun, 02-26-12, 16:48

Just the fact that he refuses to admit that's it's even a hair is kinda shady.

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